As far back as I can remember I’ve admired Ruth Bell Graham’s devotion to her husband and family. She’s always reminded me of the woman in Proverbs 31 – the woman I’ve always hoped to be.
Since I’ve gone through a divorce, I appreciate her strength and stamina even more. (This isn’t one of those “it was all his fault” stories, much as I wish it were. I fully claim my responsibility.) But even during those tumultuous times, when I was failing miserably at marriage, Ruth Bell Graham remained my mentor. It just takes me a while to learn. 🙂
I looked to her as a role model, as a woman who loved her husband, even when I’m sure she didn’t feel like it, (we all have those times, don’t we?) and yet she soldiered on with beauty and grace. Through her life, I’ve come to know that love is not just a feeling. It’s a choice. And learning that has made me one extremely happy, grateful, and blessed wife today. Thank you Ruth.
“The fact is that both husband and wife are rough when the marriage begins. They shape each other through the trials and struggles they face together. When a couple falls to their knees and prays together, that is where true shaping takes place. Those who abandon ship the first time it enters a storm miss the calm beyond. And the rougher the storms weathered together, the deeper and stronger real love grows.” -Ruth Bell Graham
My Top Three for the Week:
3.) The joy of going on a weekend getaway for my wedding anniversary. It’s been an amazing eleven years married to the most amazing man and my best friend!
2.) The soothing feeling from listening to the beautiful music of David Nevue. Here is a taste of peace.
1.) Finishing my word count goal for Camp NaNo and having the most amazing cabin mates. Our cabin Rocked! 🙂
What are you grateful for this week?
Wishing you peace.
One of my very dearest friends named her dog Rahab. One day when we were out for a walk, she was telling me the story of how her son thought it was terrible that she named the dog Rahab.
“Why is it terrible?” asked my friend.
“Mom!” He looked at her as if she were dense. “Rahab was a hooker.”
She knew he was talking about Rahab from the Bible. The same Rahab who was a prostitute had also given a safe place to stay to the spies secretly sent by Joshua to scout out the fortified city of Jericho. She risked her life for men she didn’t even know, putting their lives ahead of her own well-being out of loyalty and faithfulness to her God.
“Son,” she had told him, Rahab was a prostitute, yes, but she was a good person.”
While the fact that she was a prostitute remained in the forefront of her son’s memory, her goodness is what remained in my friend’s memory. Though I can’t say that surprised me, because she saw the good in everyone. It was she who taught me that just because someone does something unfavorable, it doesn’t mean that person isn’t redeemable by God’s grace. When I was complaining about something my husband had done–or didn’t do–it was she who said, “Remember what he has done for you and given to you.” And when she felt frustrated with her husband about something, she didn’t get angry. She voiced her thoughts, smiled and said, “But he’s my husband and I love him.”
That friend was brought into my life by a loving God who knew I needed exactly her and her outlook on life. He knew her words and wisdom would guide me long after she moved out of state to far away Tennessee.
The story she told me about her son’s reaction to naming her dog Rahab taught me two important lessons. It’s wise to be careful what we do in life because they may be remembered for years afterward. And the second is, when I see a person, do I choose to see the bad or the good? I hope and pray that I show enough love and grace that the good I do is what will be remembered.